KEEP YOUR PERSONAL ISSUES PRIVATE

There are things that should be kept to yourself, things that only your inner circle should know and not the whole world. Basically, in today’s time we’re asking ourselves to be stalked just by posting status, photos and other personal stuff on social media but I think there’s a limit to it. We all have that freewill in using social media but there is also a thin line between sharing and oversharing. There are things that I think should be kept private and not broadcast it to the world where you just basically reveal all your problems and other information that can be used against you.

Personal issues should be handled privately because how I see it, posting it online could cause to unresolved problems because of other people’s opinion on it. Only those who are involved in the issue should be the ones who handle it and not ask for sympathy or comment from the online world. You may not care what others think about how open you are but think about the other people who are involved in the situation and how you could have slander them with inaccurate information because you chose to post it online rather than discuss it privately. Stuff like these also shows your character and how you respect others because the people you have issues with they were your friends and even family, you have fights and misunderstandings but that shouldn’t stop you from being a kind and respectful person. Always be the bigger man and always be mindful of your actions because you may feel better about venting it out online but you’re not the only one who’s affected. I mostly read about stuff like a cheating husband, yes what the husband did was wrong but also think when you start posting this there are also kids who are involved and will be greatly affected by the situation. How will shaming the husband or the mistress help in solving the issue?

I read hundreds of posts like this everyday and they are letting people in on their dirty laundry or letting others grab a popcorn making their personal issues as a source of entertainment, doesn’t it bother them? Well, I wrote this post because I’m bothered by how busy people are with publicizing their problems rather than solving it privately. How about they took all that time they rendered on writing those long posts in discussing their problem with one another? Or maybe they just really like the publicity? The likes? The comments? Whatever it is I hope they realize the consequences of their actions and also realize that posting it online is not the only way to vent out. It is not the right way and channel to grab someone’s attention, use the traditional way and communicate, talk it out calmly and discuss it privately.

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LIFE’S COMPLICATIONS WITH FRIENDS

Last Friday, me and my best friend went to visit one of our closest friend to make up for the time we didn’t go to her birthday party and also to just hang out and catch up, that’s what we always do anyway.

We talked about boys, our– their love life (I don’t have that lol), school, work and life. Sparing you all the juicy details but we ended up talking about life and the complications we face towards it. The feeling of loneliness, feeling of being lost and feeling of not feeling, these are some of the things we deal with. Our conversation about the topic became pretty “dramatic” and “therapeutic” in some way, like the three of us are in some sort of group counselling session, sharing stories about the emotional difficulties we face regarding our lives, ending with deep sighs and telling ourselves that maybe that’s really how it’s supposed to be in our age. At this point in our lives maybe that’s normal and we just have to hope for the best.

I used to think that when you reach your 20s, it’s the time when you’re supposed to be having fun and doing all the things you wanted to do when you were younger but in reality, it’s more about having breakdowns, worrying about the future and overthinking of what you should do with your life (am I having a shitty life?). I guess the ideal way of living in your 20s is being lost but at the same time enjoying your time in the forest, it’s also having breakdowns but learning to get back up and keep going, it’s about having fun but also knowing your responsibilities. It’s all about balancing life which I totally lack of doing lol.

Life is really complicated but I’m thankful to the friends I have, we all deal with different kinds of problems but we have each other, even if we don’t have solutions for all of it just knowing that we’re not alone makes it bearable and with a few good laughs about it, reassures us that we’re going to be fine. 

LIFTING OTHERS WHILE I’M DROWNING

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Why is it easier to help others than to actually help yourself?

Have you been in the situation that you give advice and encouragement to others but you can’t do it to yourself?

I’ve always been that kind of person, I’m lifting others up while I’m actually drowning. I always think that when a friend or a family member tries to vent out their problems to me, I don’t release my load the same time because I think we will both sink, so I always try to find the right words to say to lift them up even if I don’t really do those things or I don’t really believe in it and I wish I could also say those words to myself and actually feel good about it.

Well the thing about me is that I don’t try to get some help as long as I can still do it on my own especially when it comes to my emotions as long as I can keep it together and no heads are turning it’s all good but sometimes when I try to get some help or I try to vent it out to someone I’ll start thinking that I’ll be a burden or they won’t understand my situation so most of the time I just keep it to myself even when someone is asking if something’s wrong I won’t tell.

I found this quote in the internet…

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I don’t know if that’s true but what I truly feel is that sooner or later I will find myself 10 feet deeper below the ground while everyone around me will be skyscrapers.

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