FORGIVE AND JUST MOVE ON

In the words of Paramore, forgiving is not forgetting. Let’s talk about the problem with the saying “forgive and forget”, you can and should forgive but you should NEVER forget. You got hurt, a person did something bad to you, you can’t just forget that. That was a lesson and a warning, you can forgive them for the sake of your peace of mind but you should still look out for those signs, and it is not about having trust issues, it’s about protecting yourself.

I personally learned that this was the way to go, to move forward with life. So many people did me wrong and I didn’t know why I felt guilty because I said to myself that I forgave them but deep inside I was still hurt, and I didn’t forget what they did. I just couldn’t forgive them and just forget what they did to me, that was a lesson for me that I should have known from the start and I will be a complete idiot if they get to do it again. Then I started thinking to just move on and not be bothered by them anymore, I should just cut them off and stop caring if they’ll feel like that I am not the same person that I was before and that is their fault (that sounded so bad). It’s like for me, okay I forgive them, I don’t really care that much anymore about what happened but I will not let myself go through that again, what’s important is my inner peace, and it’s better if I just move on without them.

Okay, that sounded so bitter but it’s the best way to take care of your mental health. Why would you let yourself be pressured into fixing a relationship when you know they are never going to change? If the things they did to you is just a cycle, they say sorry then it’s fine, then it will happen again. Forgiveness is about letting go of the anger, and freeing yourself from hatred. And to effectively do it is by moving on and leaving it behind but also carrying the lesson it gave you. It’s really better to just move on and protect your inner peace, you are wiser now. Don’t let them bother you again. So, stop the saying “forgive and forget”, it should be “forgive and move on”.

I’m leaving you with a Paramore song that inspired me to write this one…

PLAYLIST 18

Too Much To Ask by Niall Horan


I Built A Friend
by Alec Benjamin


The Way To Nowhere
by Alec Benjamin


Smother Me
by The Used


Hear You Me
by Jimmy Eat World


I Swear This Time I Mean It
by Mayday Parade


I Need The Sun To Break
by James Bay


Something I Need
by One Republic


I Will Follow You Into The Dark
by Death Cab For Cutie


Last Hope
by Paramore


PLAYLIST 16 | PARAMORE & BLINK-182


Brick By Boring Brick
by Paramore

Ignorance
by Paramore

Playing God
by Paramore

When It Rains
by Paramore

crushcrushcrush
by Paramore

Bored To Death
by blink-182

Adam’s Song
by blink-182

Dammit
by blink-182

I Miss You
by blink-182

All The Small Things
by blink-182


I’ve been listening to a lot of Paramore and blink-182 songs and other pop punk/alternative rock genre but mostly these two bands and listed above are just some of my favorite songs from the two bands.

I’ve already shared some of my sentiments on the band Paramore and on their latest album After Laughter on one of my previous post. As I’ve said I really liked their album RIOT and also because of the influence of my sister, she used to listen to them all the time. Now, I just started listening to them again because When It Rains came on my shuffled songs which is one of my favorite Paramore song. Sadly, they changed their sound which used to be a vibe of pop punk and alternative rock. Now, they are more pop but I still like their current sound though. 

blink-182, should I tell more about them? When you say punk I think they’re the first one that will come into everyone’s mind. Their song All The Small Things was one of the anthems of most early 2000’s teen flick movies. Their album Enema of the State was their greatest album and also one of my favorite album. 

I honestly miss this kind of music. Well, that’s my playlist for today. 😊

PLAYLIST 14

Today by Willamette Stone (If I Stay Soundtrack)

Wild Life by Hedley

No More Bad Days by This Wild Life

What Can You Do? by Nathan Roberts

Unbreakable by Jamie Scott

Beautiful by Virginia To Vegas

Paper Crown by Alec Benjamin

Sell My Soul by Storm Circus

Caught In The Middle by Paramore

Unsteady by X Ambassadors 


This playlist sort of tells “yeah I’m alright, am I?”, it’s like a vibe of life is great and it makes sense but sometimes it’s all of the opposite— sometimes you’re okay and sometimes you’re not and sometimes you just have to go with the flow. This playlist also tells that sometimes you have that confidence and you believe in yourself but sometimes there’ll be moments where your self-esteem is just not there. It’s being in the middle of being strong and giving up. 

PLAYLIST 13

Fake Happy by Paramore

Two Ghost by Harry Styles

This Is Gospel by Panic! At The Disco

Slow Hands by Niall Horan

Lot To Learn by Luke Christopher

Goodnight Moon by Go Radio

Cool Blue by The Japanese House

Kids Again by Artist vs Poet

Forever And Always by Parachute

Numb by Max Jury