I want to be selfish every once in a while but I look at my hand, that gold metal band around my finger reminded me that this isn’t just about me anymore. I gave up a piece of me when I said ‘I do’, and that piece of me I gave it to you, the other part of me wanted to be freed and just wanted to go back to the way it was before. But I took a vow to be with you in anyhow, to always be together even in times of doubt and remind each other why we’re here now. We won’t forget because I chose you and we’re here from every sunrise until every sunset.
I was in so much pain and you chose to leave hoping that I’d miss you. And, I won’t blame you, ‘cause you were hurting too but if that’s what you want I won’t stop you anymore, you’re free to walk out the door.
Dave and Veronica had been together since they were in high school, and at 19 they got married, they moved in to a small apartment. At 22, Veronica got pregnant, they were both just trying to figure life out. They worry about the future of their child, but Dave and Veronica promised to each other that they could face any struggle as long as they were together. Their daughter was born, Dave got a job as a car salesman and closed many deals in just a short period of time. Dave felt like he was doing something right for once in his life. While, Veronica took over her father’s business and she was doing a pretty good job with it. They bought their own house and they finally got their life together. But a few years after, Dave quit his job because he wasn’t happy even if his job was bringing in a lot of money. Veronica was supportive of him though she was worried about their expenses, especially when their daughter was already going to school. Dave spent years finding his calling, he was hopping on one job onto another. Veronica was getting worried, and said that he should’ve get a stable job by now as he was just wasting his time but Dave was decided that he would not be a corporate slave anymore. Dave saw how Veronica was slowly losing her confidence on him, and how slowly he was losing her, and as that happened Dave lost his own confidence on himself as well.
Dave never got a stable job. Thankfully, Veronica’s business was doing great but she was fed up with Dave’s lifestyle. Dave fell off track, got into a drinking habit, got into meeting other women. Going home in the morning being drunk. Sleeping all day and out at night. They both fell out of their relationship with their constant fighting. Veronica and Dave were out of reach from each other. Until, one night Veronica found out about Dave’s affair, it was the last straw and she finally confronted him about everything. They got into a huge fight where their daughter heard everything, and shouted at his father to go away. Dave ran out and left Veronica with their daughter.
Dave felt like his life was spiraling down, he had no job and also his family hated him. He went away to make himself feel good, stayed with his lover for awhile until he realized that he was missing his family. Dave felt really bad with how his life turned out, thinking he once had everything, and he blew it all away. He decided he wanted to make everything right. Dave came home to his family a few days later but saw his stuff outside the door. He didn’t face his family, he grabbed his stuff thinking that it was all too late and he just went away.
Dave is a person who rush in to life. Starting a family in an early age, with little time to figure himself out. Most people in their 20’s are still out partying, while Dave was out there trying to earn for his family. I couldn’t blame Dave for what he had become, he was brave to have left his job to find his passion but I think Dave got succumbed into depression when he noticed that his wife stopped believing in him. When you’re out in the wilderness you want someone to hold your hand the whole way through until you find shelter to be safe. Dave lost that someone’s hand.
I also couldn’t blame Veronica. As you become a mother, I believe you forget about everybody and even forget about your own happiness just as long as you can provide for your child. Veronica felt like she could handle everything on her own because she was successful with her business and she was getting by without the help of her husband, but she forgot that Dave was there when they both had nothing.
This was inspired by a true story.
What do you think about Dave & Veronica’s situation?