This was written in the early months during quarantine. It has been sitting out in my drafts for quite some time now. I was just waiting for the perfect time and courage to publish this, and I was reflecting on the last post that I did couple of days ago for suicide prevention month. I kind of need to “walk the talk”, by sharing my story.Read More »
No matter what you’re going through, always be kind. Never let the bad things that happened to you affect how you treat others.
Back when I was still in college, I’d always dreamed the life of making money out of doing something that I love. Until, I went on that road of being a corporate slave and be stuck at a job that I didn’t pretty much enjoyed. I even wrote a blog post about it, which pretty much contradicts this post. (Glad to have this blog to look back on what I believed in the past).
Right now, I realized something and that is it’s okay if I’m not doing the thing that I love as my job. Some people are lucky that they get to do their passion and make it as their careers but I guess I am more lucky that I still earn money and I still get to do the things that I love without any pressure.
I know a lot of people these days are pretty much into pursuing their passion as their careers and that is great. But for those who are struggling to make that happen, this is your assurance that it is definitely fine that you are working at a job that you hate right now just to pay your dues. Be thankful for it because you still earn money and I believe you spend that money to buy and do the things that you love.
Honestly, if you think about it, we all get pressured and stressed from any work that we do. And we go to our hobby and passion as a way to escape from that chaotic part of our life. Imagine if these two are combined into one, where do you run when the thing that you love doing is where you get your anxiety from? Your once stress reliever is now your stressor?
There is an upside to your job not being your passion, you get to separate your profession from your passion. You are lucky because you still have that escape, I know some people who lost all their interests from their passion because it is their job at the same time, and I hate seeing that. Because they used to love doing that so much until their two worlds collided and they couldn’t distinguished their passion from their profession. I see a lot of kids/teens these days getting depressed about it, even myself thinks about it. Because I see all these quotes and posts about how everyone should pursue their passion, which you could see in my old post. People need to realize that not everyone has the same privilege and opportunities to go after their passion. Some people even need to give that up for the sake of providing more for their families. That is why don’t believe everything you read on the internet especially those false motivation that create fake ideals. I am not saying that you should stop going after what you want, and be contented in a job that you hate. It’s just some people out there are afraid to go after it or are having a hard time to get there, and this post is a reminder that it is okay and that they are not a failure for not living the dream that they had when they were still a kid.
Everyone has their own time frame, we all get there when we get there. But for now, just be grateful. 😊
This post is not meant to offend anyone who is pursuing their passion, this is for those who feel like their life is going nowhere and they feel like they have no purpose because they are not going after what they want. 😊
LET’S FOLLOW EACH OTHER:
In the words of Paramore, forgiving is not forgetting. Let’s talk about the problem with the saying “forgive and forget”, you can and should forgive but you should NEVER forget. You got hurt, a person did something bad to you, you can’t just forget that. That was a lesson and a warning, you can forgive them for the sake of your peace of mind but you should still look out for those signs, and it is not about having trust issues, it’s about protecting yourself.
I personally learned that this was the way to go, to move forward with life. So many people did me wrong and I didn’t know why I felt guilty because I said to myself that I forgave them but deep inside I was still hurt, and I didn’t forget what they did. I just couldn’t forgive them and just forget what they did to me, that was a lesson for me that I should have known from the start and I will be a complete idiot if they get to do it again. Then I started thinking to just move on and not be bothered by them anymore, I should just cut them off and stop caring if they’ll feel like that I am not the same person that I was before and that is their fault (that sounded so bad). It’s like for me, okay I forgive them, I don’t really care that much anymore about what happened but I will not let myself go through that again, what’s important is my inner peace, and it’s better if I just move on without them.
Okay, that sounded so bitter but it’s the best way to take care of your mental health. Why would you let yourself be pressured into fixing a relationship when you know they are never going to change? If the things they did to you is just a cycle, they say sorry then it’s fine, then it will happen again. Forgiveness is about letting go of the anger, and freeing yourself from hatred. And to effectively do it is by moving on and leaving it behind but also carrying the lesson it gave you. It’s really better to just move on and protect your inner peace, you are wiser now. Don’t let them bother you again. So, stop the saying “forgive and forget”, it should be “forgive and move on”.
I’m leaving you with a Paramore song that inspired me to write this one…
I tell myself it’s just not my day.
I will say everything I can say
just to make myself feel okay.
I’m a failure they might say
but I just go on my own way
hoping to finally have my day.