I Wouldn’t Know Any Better Than You by Gentle Bones
I’m very picky when it comes to new music, maybe because I’m getting older and I’m still stuck at the 90’s and early 2000’s music. But I do appreciate these chill vibe kind of music nowadays, it’s kind of perfect for this sweater weather that we currently have. Enjoy this playlist!
One of the main reason why I don’t usually view my social media accounts lately is because of how toxic it can be. Like, photos of Billie Eilish normally walking outside in a normal attire, in her normal body is circulating in my timeline right now. I also see Angel Locsin’s photo that shows the changes in her body. Apparently, people are saying that they gained weight, and making fun of it. I thought people are tired of “fat” jokes by now, sadly they aren’t.
Billie and Angel are perfect in their own bodies, as long as they are healthy their bodies are fine. I feel sorry for celebrities who face this kind of scrutiny, that’s why they go to doctors to fix something in their face or body that isn’t even broken in the first place just to get approval, and to satisfy the people. I’m not a follower of Billie but I read that she wears baggy clothes to steer clear of being objectified, it is crazy to think that she really adjusted herself to avoid people from checking her out. To think that her choice of clothing is not just a brand but a protection as well, which clearly shows why with that trending photo.
Another thing that I’ve been seeing online is Rebel Wilson’s weight loss. They introduced Rebel Wilson’s “fat amy” persona creating a confident plus-sized representation, and thinking that it was cool but then I learned that Hollywood encouraged Rebel to stay as overweight as she can be, because people “dig” it, and they gain more money. And, now Rebel lost a lot of weight and she’s feeling more herself. This is not contradicting the media’s move with plus-sized representation, I am glad that the entertainment industry is open with diversity but forcing people to be in a shape that they don’t want to be in is not okay.
Another example is the heartthrob Zac Efron, did you know that Zac hated his body in the movie Baywatch? Zac was ripped and really buffed in that movie, he went on a very strict regimen, and even said that he wouldn’t let himself and his body go through it again.
Another is Jacob Elordi in Kissing Booth, he hated his body in the movie too but he said that the movie required him to have his body like that.
For sure, there are more celebrities and other people who experienced this cruel requirement.
For the longest time, society set out some standards that we have to follow; how to act, what is acceptable, and what is beautiful. And the opposite of those are just a subject of a laughing matter or an insult, something that we should change as it somehow degrades our whole being. We are trying to break out from those standards but sadly it isn’t enough, we still have narrow minded people who see these “imperfections” as a joke material. They are happily tearing down people’s spirits because of these standards, making these beautiful people feel less of what they are worth, and for the longest time we have been living in a world full of these kinds of people. It’s our body and we should have control over it, we should be happy with it without feeling insecure and without the need of validation from others. These unrealistic standards are the world’s toxic fuel, it’s time to drain them out and remove from the society’s norms.
Your body is fine, your color is fine, your face is fine, it’s just the society and the world that isn’t fine.
What are your thoughts about the unrealistic standards the society has set out for us?
“Hey, I think that your blog, it could be really interesting. But uhh storytelling… Okay so I will start with words “I don’t feel okay last times”. I knew, that people feels bad sometimes and it drags them down to the bottom. You shared a post in twenty one pilots group, so it’s obvious I will response that music keeps me alive. Every single day. I started to feel worse when my mother had to go to mental hospital. I have no idea from where it is (my bad mood) and the way I feel is teribble. I can’t stand this anymore. I think nobody will understand. I don’t know what is right, to look for some help or better do handle it by myself. I started to hurt myself, and every day is a fight. Im just exhausted but I Will fight cuz I have a reason to why live for. We don’t have to create music, we can take it, discover like a new mattery. It’s unbelievable how sounds and beats can save us. I thought, weeelll it’s not true how it could be! But truth is different. Please, take care all of you watch your mind and never let it rule you. Like my friend said, not all the words our minds are telling are honest. Keep going.”
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Here we are again with another inspiring story from someone who’s brave enough to tell us how they cope with struggles that revolves around their mental health. I shared my post to a Facebook group that I’m a member of, it’s a Twenty One Pilots fan group, and this community is by far the best that there is, it really makes you believe that you are not alone.
I’ve been a fan of Twenty One Pilots since 2015, read all about it here. The thing about their songs are the lyrics that people relate to especially those who are struggling with their mental health. I for one was one of those people who was saved by this band. I have one of their song tattooed on me. And this band even inspires my writings. This just shows how powerful music is, I wonder what Tyler and Josh feel when people say that the thing that they do saves people? I think it is such a big accomplishment for them. In this digital age, I think it’s so important to have somebody in the entertainment industry to make people who feel misunderstood to be understood by making thousands and even millions of them sing “we’re broken people” and know that they are truly not alone.
Anyways, this is one of the small things you have to live for, if you give up you’re not going to be able to listen to your favorite music anymore or you won’t get to see what happens next to your favorite show etc. We may feel like we don’t have something too big to live for but we have these little things. Always look at those little things in your life that makes you happy even for awhile, even if it’s temporary and just live for it. And like what our story teller said keep fighting and keep going.
Thank you to our story sender for this week. I hope you are doing okay and well, stay alive my friend 🤗. I’m leaving you here with Twenty One Pilots’ song Screen. Enjoy!
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Have you ever felt the power of music? What are the little things that you live for? Share it in the comments. 🤗
Always remember to be kind, not just on others but also on yourself. See you on my next post! ❤
Eleven grew into a beautiful lady. If you’re a fan of the series Stranger Things, you probably know who Millie Bobby Brown is. I see Millie Bobby Brown as part of this new generation of great actors, her acting in Stranger Things was such a stand out performance, acting with little dialogue and mostly only with her eyes, and her facial expressions.
And, now Millie Bobby Brown stars in a Netflix original film Enola Holmes, along with huge stars such as Henry Cavil, Sam Claflin, and the great Helena Bonham Carter. Enola Holmes is about the estranged little sister of the famous detective Sherlock Holmes. Enola grew up with her mother, teaching her essential skills to live in a man’s world. But then her mother went missing and that’s where Enola’s adventure of finding her mother starts.
If you haven’t watched Enola Holmes yet, there are minor spoilers here.
Honestly, this show is so fun to watch because of Millie and the quirkiness of her character. But most importantly, I love the film because of the message they try to show which is very timely. This is the part of the blog where I talk about what I learned and what kind of message I got from the movies that I watch. So, here are some powerful messages from Enola Holmes:
The Feminist Message
The message of women empowerment was very strong in the film but it was also light to watch. It wasn’t shown in something too serious that you’ll find it a bit cliché. Basically, the film shows how girls live back then. How women should conform to a standards set out for them. Women are expected to just do these things to have them called a well-grown and well-respected lady. And Enola grew up not doing those things, like learning embroidery, wearing corset, and only wearing clothes that satisfy the society. The amount of expectations and unfairness a women face daily are too much back in the day.
Check Your Privileges
There was also one scene in the film where it shows how most privilege people have no interests in changing how the society works because it doesn’t affect them, how they are blind with injustices because the current society that they live in works for them. That scene was so powerful, and the message is so on point especially today. There are so many voices not being heard, and in order to be heard you have to make some noise, that privilege people are so naive or just plainly ignorant to recognize these injustices.
Create A Better World For Your Kids
Warning! This is a major spoiler.
Enola’s mother left her because she wanted to change the world for Enola. She wanted Enola to grow up in a better society for all the women. She was planning protests that will endanger Enola. It was such a great message, it wasn’t really focused on but I see it as Eudoria (Enola’s mother) taught her everything to survive but I guess all of those skills weren’t enough, she decided that the world should adjust and not her daughter, and not women. It also shows how mothers would go to the end of the world to give the best for their children.
We Choose Our Own Path
I think this is the main moral of the story. We create our own destiny, we create our own purpose. We should not let the society or anyone dictate what we should become. Enola’s other brother Mycroft forced her in learning how to act like a “true lady”, because Mycroft believes that is how women should act. But Enola broke all expectations and ignored the standards, she did her own thing and followed what she wants.
Overall, this movie was a fun watch. The acting was great, the message and pacing were also great. It is a must watch. 👏🏼
Early 2000’s teen flicks has the best soundtracks ever, you can’t argue with me on that one. When you hear these songs, you can really picture those teen films in your head. These songs are just so iconic for me, also brings some nostalgia.
I have this playlist on Spotify full of Nostaligic songs for 90’s baby out there, you can follow it if you like. 😀