“I Want To Be Different”

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Most of us want to be different but what is being different? How do you define it? When everybody wants to be different then that means all of us are the same right? We all want the same thing, how does that make us any different?

Being different equally means being special, to be set apart from the rest, to be unique. We are all unique in our own way but most of us crave for being “different”. I guess we all have our own meaning to that word but most of us use that word to break out from our normal world. Like, being in line with a family of doctors but you wanted to break out from that and you wanted to become a writer instead. Or how your father wanted you to follow on his footsteps as a professional basketball player but you wanted to be a musician etc. Most of us grew up with a built path already, and we just have to walk on it. And some of us want to build our own. Which made me think that being different is not actually being different from the rest but becoming like the rest who are happy and successful, to follow their own passion and path.

“I want to be different” is not actually craving to be set apart, it is craving to be a part of something special and worthwhile. Being different is not going against the flow but being in the flow in the right river.

So, go ahead and be different.


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Respect Each Other’s Grieving Process

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We all have our own tragedies and we all deal with it differently, our ways might be different from one another but we all have the same goal and that is to go through it and move on.

We all have our ways of coping with things and we do things that can be unexplainable and unexpected but we do these things because we believe that it will somehow lessen the pain and it will help us move on eventually. There are things that are unlikely for us to do, that our own friends and family disagree with it, and there are times that we ignore their advice and still do the things that they told us not to do. They will be frustrated even to the point of not understanding us anymore and to them we are just being unreasonable, but to us everything still hurts.

People need to understand that everyone has different ways of dealing with things, they have different grieving process. You may not understand it but at least respect it, most of the time people dealing with so much heart break or sadness, they eventually figure it out on their own. The things that they are doing is vital to their process. Talking to them and giving them advice is okay but never point out the mistakes they’re doing because they know it already, never assume that when you give advice they will be okay right away, it is never easy to fully move on. Allow them to grieve and allow them to feel things and go through it, never invalidate their emotions and just be there for them. But if you disagree and don’t understand their process to respect it, might as well ignore it for the sake of their wellness and yours too.

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Story Of Dave & Veronica

Let me tell you a tragic love story.

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Dave and Veronica had been together since they were in high school, and at 19 they got married, they moved in to a small apartment. At 22, Veronica got pregnant, they were both just trying to figure life out. They worry about the future of their child, but Dave and Veronica promised to each other that they could face any struggle as long as they were together. Their daughter was born, Dave got a job as a car salesman and closed many deals in just a short period of time. Dave felt like he was doing something right for once in his life. While, Veronica took over her father’s business and she was doing a pretty good job with it. They bought their own house and they finally got their life together. But a few years after, Dave quit his job because he wasn’t happy even if his job was bringing in a lot of money. Veronica was supportive of him though she was worried about their expenses, especially when their daughter was already going to school. Dave spent years finding his calling, he was hopping on one job onto another. Veronica was getting worried, and said that he should’ve get a stable job by now as he was just wasting his time but Dave was decided that he would not be a corporate slave anymore. Dave saw how Veronica was slowly losing her confidence on him, and how slowly he was losing her, and as that happened Dave lost his own confidence on himself as well.

Dave never got a stable job. Thankfully, Veronica’s business was doing great but she was fed up with Dave’s lifestyle. Dave fell off track, got into a drinking habit, got into meeting other women. Going home in the morning being drunk. Sleeping all day and out at night. They both fell out of their relationship with their constant fighting. Veronica and Dave were out of reach from each other. Until, one night Veronica found out about Dave’s affair, it was the last straw and she finally confronted him about everything. They got into a huge fight where their daughter heard everything, and shouted at his father to go away. Dave ran out and left Veronica with their daughter.

Dave felt like his life was spiraling down, he had no job and also his family hated him. He went away to make himself feel good, stayed with his lover for awhile until he realized that he was missing his family. Dave felt really bad with how his life turned out, thinking he once had everything, and he blew it all away. He decided he wanted to make everything right. Dave came home to his family a few days later but saw his stuff outside the door. He didn’t face his family, he grabbed his stuff thinking that it was all too late and he just went away.

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Dave is a person who rush in to life. Starting a family in an early age, with little time to figure himself out. Most people in their 20’s are still out partying, while Dave was out there trying to earn for his family. I couldn’t blame Dave for what he had become, he was brave to have left his job to find his passion but I think Dave got succumbed into depression when he noticed that his wife stopped believing in him. When you’re out in the wilderness you want someone to hold your hand the whole way through until you find shelter to be safe. Dave lost that someone’s hand.

I also couldn’t blame Veronica. As you become a mother, I believe you forget about everybody and even forget about your own happiness just as long as you can provide for your child. Veronica felt like she could handle everything on her own because she was successful with her business and she was getting by without the help of her husband, but she forgot that Dave was there when they both had nothing.

This was inspired by a true story.

What do you think about Dave & Veronica’s situation?


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My Complicated Faith And Beliefs

Hi everyone, today I’m going to tell you a story about my faith. I’ve been struggling to form my words to explain my faith, I will try my best. Here it goes.

I grew up as a roman catholic, I went to a catholic school both grade school and high school. So, I grew up in a very conservative practices, and I used to be a bible reading type of person. That part of me even grew more when I entered my college life, the pressure of being a young adult was coming down on me. My depressive state was getting worse, so I turned to God’s words or any self-help words that I could clung onto, just to save myself from drowning in my own self-destructive thoughts. I was always finding ways to escape my miserable life, and the stuff you read in the bible was very helpful. I used to have the bible app on my phone, and any self-help apps that uses verses in the bible to help enriched our lives. I even wrote a blog post about it. I was a big God’s fan.

But everything changed when I graduated and I got a job. Like, I said in my other post. I experienced what life really was. I realized how shitty it could really get, as time goes by and along that journey, I finally accepted it— life sucks (sometimes). And along that path of acceptance was also the path where I let go of my old ways, even letting go of the things that I was passionate about. I stopped writing, reading, and all the other things that I used to loved doing for awhile. I stopped doing the things that I used to do every time I felt like life was knocking me down. Because I accepted how life is, and I felt like I no longer need the words of others to lift me up, I found my own take on life.

Now, you may see this as I developed a narcissistic way of living my life. NO. I just found a new approach on how to deal with life, and to also trust myself more. I mean we are all just trying to get through life, right? We have our own ways. I guess, I used to go to God back then because I have no one telling me what to do. He was my rope that I held onto. And it sucks to view it this way, but I changed ways, and found another rope to hold onto. But this doesn’t mean that I lost my faith. I still believe in Him, and I know God is real. I just have my own ways to show that. We all have our own relationship with God, mine is just different from the traditional ways. For a better understanding on my relationship with God, it’s like this. I see God as a parent, He guides me, He’s there for me always. But as a child, I grow up, I go my own way, and start doing things on my own. But I still love my parent even if at times, it seems like I don’t. (Does that makes any sense? Lol)

As we’re on this topic, might as well talk about religion. This is the part where I’m a bit hesitant to share, and you’ll know why. Whatever I am going to state here is just my own belief, I’m not asking you to believe whatever I say. I respect everyone’s own beliefs.

I don’t see myself as a roman catholic now, it’s all just in papers. I don’t see myself being part of any religion. I don’t believe in religions, and I never really consider myself as a religious type of person even back then where I was a bible reading person, that for me are very different from each other. I don’t go to church anymore because I believe you can talk to God anytime and anywhere. And religions just separate people, it doesn’t bring people together, it even makes a subject of wars. Another thing, I also used to read the bible because I used to believe it makes you a good person but I don’t know if I would still believe it, when most religious-church-goer-bible-reading people that I met was also the most judgmental people I have met in my life. It’s like they do this practices just to be saved, they go to church to erase their sins, when people could just live with kindness and empathy from the start as I believe that’s what God wants right?

We all grew up believing in something but that changes throughout life, and you start to have your own interpretation on things. My faith was something that I was very insecure to talk about because not a lot of people understand. When some people don’t share the same beliefs, they judge each other. I think money, politics and religion are some topics of conversations that can get us into a fight, that is why we mostly don’t openly talk about it unless we’re drunk. Anyways, that’s the end of this story, I don’t really know how to end this. So…

The end.


Oh, share your thoughts in the comments, share your beliefs and faith as well. Let’s start a healthy discussion about this.


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