Category: Rants & Ramblings

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Don’t Fall In Love With Your Bestfriend

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Finding love is such a wonderful thing to have, especially the idea of falling in love with someone you have known for quite a while. Hopeless romantics may say it’s a dream to have it with a friend, the trust and bond is immediately there, and after all the films that have that love story shows how perfect it truly is— it’s not. Falling in love with your best friend can cause a lot of negative emotions and consequences.

Films that has these best friend to lovers story lines messed up your expectations and reality because of how it shows these perfect stories, and you being this hopeless romantic crave for the same story for yourself. Generally, love is not like the movies (just saying).

You and your best friend became friends all these years for a reason, and you suddenly see them with heart eyes, it makes you look desperate of wanting someone in your life and you see your best friend always being there, and your brain started thinking that maybe you two were made for each other. You are made for each other in a different non-romantic way.

It also ruins your long time bond with each other, leaving you feeling awkward around them. And when you finally decide to confess your feelings and your friend doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll be manipulative and start acting out like you’re the one who got wronged. And, you’ll leave your best friend feeling devastated, or worst they’ll start believing that they feel the same way and that is just pathetic.

Sorry, but to be honest it is truly pathetic to fall in love with someone you have known for most of your life, who you trust the most, and basically have been there for you through it all. I don’t believe in you just magically fall for your friend, it is sad and unfair that it took you that long to realize that you have feelings for your best friend, you took advantage of getting to know them as a friend and use it as a way to develop the relationship into a romantic one.

Though, I’ll respect it. I mean if it’s true love then who am I to stop it?

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There Is Rape Because There Are Rapists

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Disclaimer: This post contains a sensitive topic and profanity not suitable for younger readers

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Another important discussion is being tackled right now especially here in the Philippines as comments as to why women get raped is because of the way they dress or act. Rape is a never ending discussion and right now it’s being brought up because of an alleged “rape-slay” case of a flight attendant, and even though the rape angle is still questionable as the autopsy report said that the cause of death is due to a ruptured aneurysm, most people have quickly come to social media to victim-blame. Let’s set the headline aside, since I partially believe that the 11 men who were with Christine Dacera were innocent in terms of the rape allegations. It has been years and it’s really sad that we still need to debate on the cause of why rape happens.

It’s sad that we still need to explain that women’s clothing or the way they act has nothing to do with being raped. Rape happens because there are rapists. Why is it so hard to explain this? Why do most men think that women dress up for them? Why do most men think that everything women do is for them?

We have been adjusting in this man’s world ever since the world began, we normalized rape culture like it’s always going to be one of the things we’re going to worry about each day. We got used to sexual jokes and we fake laugh to cover up the awkwardness we feel deep inside. We need to be conscious in the way we dress to not be objectified. It’s really sad that it had led to this, it’s been really difficult to change it and erase the rape culture.

We need to end the rape culture. Stop victim blaming! Only rapists-minded would argue about the way women act, if the way girls dress or how they walk or act triggers your perverted minds and you act on it then you have a problem and it’s not the girls’ fault. It’s simple as taking things that aren’t yours as we call it being a kleptomaniac and with forcing girls/people to have sex we call it being a rapist!

I don’t want to make this long because this should have been a short discussion because it’s not that hard to comprehend.

NOT EVERYTHING THAT WOMEN DOES IS AN INVITATION AND CONSENT. KEEP YOUR D*CKS AWAY!

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Why Do I Have Friends?

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I’m sitting here in my chair in front of my computer, and I’m suddenly thinking of why I have friends. Seriously, why do I have friends? If you met me, I don’t have the friendliest face in the world. I’m not going to be the first one who will initiate a conversation, I’m going to smile but I won’t be the first one who will say something. I can also be the most boring person at first because I’m not comfortable with a person that I barely know. And, now I’m thinking how did I get all of my friends to be my friend?

I’ve established in one of my post that I’m “the quiet one”, I don’t talk much if it’s not needed and I don’t know how you make friends if you’re not a talker but I have these friends that I talk nonsense things to nowadays, and most of them chose me to be their friend or they were stuck with me, either way it turned into genuine friendships. My friends and I have different personalities but same mindsets, and I’m lucky to have found people who are so different from me but also have a lot of similarities with. Honestly, making friends was always my problem back in school, every year I will be with different groups of students except in high school where I stayed with the same classmates for most of my high school life. I was always hoping someone would talk to me and be my friend, and that sort of happen year by year. And, in high school I met my best friend for almost 10 years now and in college that happened too, in short I had friends and I’m currently questioning that right now because I met myself, I think I’m a great person but I’m honestly not that friendly at first sight. I should probably ask them right?

Anyways, this is just some random thoughts and it made me feel grateful for my friends, who I consider my family as well. I’m actually more comfortable around them than my own family. And, thinking all about it, making friends is really important, these people are going to be one of your anchor and rock when things get tough or when you’re too conscious to talk about things with your family. Creating genuine friendships is one of the things that make this life bearable, it makes life easier, and it makes life fun. If you have this you’re very lucky and if you’re going through rough patches with your friends talk things through because you’ll need each other in this crazy life.

I had these thoughts along side listening to LANY’s song Where The Hell Are My Friends? I usually listen to this song when I’m feeling alone but the thoughts that I had was why do I have friends? lol.

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Christmas 2020

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December is my favorite month, it’s weird because most people usually has their birth month as their favorite month, I also love my birth month which is August because of the comfort I find in the rainy season but December is different, it’s a happy month. We all celebrate it around the world, with all the parties, the chaotic Christmas shopping, and just the whole festive vibe leading to Christmas day is just awesome. But this year is different and it’s feels weird to celebrate Christmas.

The year 2020 is such a horror, everything that we’ve been through this year is unbelievable, surviving the year full of breakdowns and disappointments is incredible for each and everyone of us. Ending the year with a celebration is just what we all deserve to have but I feel like not celebrating this year. It used to be so much fun when the month of December enters, I used to really feel the Christmas spirit like worrying what to wear in Christmas parties, deciding what to buy for Christmas presents, and just the whole planning with family and friends on what to do for Christmas. Right now, with the pandemic it’s all impossible to do when parties and gatherings are prohibited, when being close to each other is a risk. It’s really difficult to feel happy right now when a lot of people are battling this virus that made this year feel like hell. I really want to be in that Christmas spirit but when I try to go outside, it feels like just a normal day for everyone, it feels like everyone is also not feeling the spirit of Christmas. Anyways, it’s still days before Christmas day maybe this will change, who knows?

Sorry for the depressing writings these last few days, I promise to lighten it up on my next blog posts lol. I’ll just leave you with a classic Christmas song that I usually hear on the radio when I was young during Christmas time.

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Temporary Home

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Currently on a blogging break again not because I’m lazy (again) but because we moved out from our home that is being renovated, we moved in to a small apartment for awhile until our house is done. So, I haven’t been able to focus with all our stuff lying around in this apartment.

Though, I’ve been thinking of a lot of ideas to blog about, I just haven’t been able to write it lol. That is why the drafts on my phone is wildly increasing as of the moment 😅. Full of unfinished writings and ideas, hopefully our house will be done before Christmas. My family decided to fix our house so that there’s something good that happened to all of us this year, which was a very good idea. What a way to welcome a new year with a newly renovated home. ☺️

Of course, I’m going to blog about it. Can’t wait for Christmas! ☺️🎄🎅🏼.