It is easy to absorb negativity from this world and generation we currently live in. It is easy to fall and give in to criticisms and setbacks. It is truly a sensitive world right now where it’s quite difficult to keep a positive attitude. We are all aware of what is happening around us through different channels that is conveniently available to us. Therefore, we developed a high sense of consciousness towards everything that we do; is this acceptable by the society? Am I doing it right? etc. These internal monologue we often do leads to insecurities that also leads to a negative impact in the way we perceive our day-to-day approach and decisions.
In today’s time everything feels like a race, everyone wants to achieve a certain milestone in lesser time. Like, at 25 I need to have this and that, and by 45 or 50 I should retire. It’s amazing how everyone has these types of goals in their life but it also sets unrealistic standards and goals for some. Especially to those who are not given the same privilege. I get it how people say that putting hard work pays off but not everyone is given the same opportunities. Like, in this society that often looks at a prestigious background of applicants—those who came from a top 4 universities already has the upper hand apart from those who graduated from a university that most people haven’t even heard before. Employers won’t weigh who’s more of a hard worker, they will pick or give initial screening based from their resumes. It is an unfair world and you can’t really say that you just have to work hard, those who are underprivileged needs to work twice as hard if they want to meet such standards.
Having these factors weigh in on your life; the unfair society, the criticisms, the pressure, and the comparisons, why would you add a negative thinking to all of that? It is difficult to overcome all of that and it is much more difficult when yourself adds on to that weight by thinking that you can’t overcome challenges and when you think that nothing is going your way. It’s so important today to change perspective and see everything as just another challenge and another problem to solve, and not a wall or a boundary that stops you. I see a lot of people being so negative that they just sulk in the corner and wait for a miracle to happen.
One thing I have realized in my 24 years of existence is that you are your worst enemy. And for the past years I have learned how important it is to have a positive outlook. Okay, I am not saying that you should be positive all the time because that is unhealthy. It is important that you acknowledge every emotions that you have. What I mean from a positive outlook is that you still look forward to things, you see challenges as a learning opportunity or something that will contribute to your personal growth. After having that setback you should channel that to be more motivated to start again. During this pandemic, I quit my previous job and I was unemployed for half a year. I was on and off from being depressed and anxious to being productive. I was in this crazy mental state on whether I should give up since everything slowed down or I should fight my usual depressed self. I chose the latter, I started up being active on this blog again as part of the plan to stay productive, I became more active with my chores. I chose to act rather than to sit and sulk.
Changing perspective isn’t overnight. I guess for me it happened in a time where the world suddenly stopped and changed its’ usual ways. I had a lot of time to introspect without any distractions and everything really slowed down that I caught up with my thoughts. I felt like there’s something inside my brain that suddenly lightens up and I somehow see my life more clearly than I did before. There’s suddenly that excitement to move forward. I turned my cynical self into a hopeful and ideal type of person (sort of).
You are your biggest cheerleader
and achieving a positive perspective is very beneficial in this life where everything suddenly feels possible and within your reach. It is a confirmation that
yourself is indeed your worst enemy but also yourself is your greatest friend that will help you overcome everything.
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